This is a topic which was requested by a friend, and from certain conversations in the past with other people, it’ll be fair to say that it is a frequent topic that comes up. Loneliness has been associated with too many negative things. Depression, addiction, sociopathy, suicide- you name it. But, in reality, loneliness is a certain time phase where you are under no influence from any part of the society. It is neither good nor bad, it is nothing.
Nothing else factors in except your own character. It is you and just you, that’s all. Whether it turns out to be good or bad is really up to the individual. To simply put it, it is the duration during which the true character of the individual rises up since every other factor influencing him/her is absent during that time. Of course, the true character of the individual also shows up during difficult times but more often, it’s when you’re alone, when no one is watching.
That being said, here’s a statement that’s often said in this form or some other variant of it.
“No one really cares about me, I hangout with people who are shallow, my parents don’t get me, the place where I go to learn is boring, life is pointless and something’s wrong with humanity.”
If you find yourself uttering words along these lines, remember this. It’s either you or the entire human race that’s wrong. That’s you vs 7 billion people who don’t care about you.
So who’s fault it is? The entire human race? Sorry Sunshine, but you’re wrong. People love to care, people love to appreciate, and people love to love. It’s just how it is. If you want people to care about you, act like someone they’d want to care about. Of course, you can be an outlier while pursuing an innovation and people may not initially like you for that but then again, would that matter for an innovator? Hopefully, not, because people don’t know what they want until you show them what they want.
Here’s a slight variant of that statement which my male audience can relate easier.
“I’m single because I’m a nice guy. Girls only like bad boys.”
Bahahaha, no Prince Arthur. If you read this statement initially, it doesn’t seem like much. But when you think about it, there aren’t many other statements that can be more sanctimonious. Women like confident and competent men who are at the top of hierarchies, identical to how men like physically attractive women. These are the fundamentals, then comes morality and other factors. It is just how it is. So, again, it’s you vs every available chick on the planet. Who’s mistake is it if you’re an incel? You.
Loneliness is a gift:
It’s the greatest time for self-introspection. The odds are that no one knows about you better than yourself. Figure yourself out if you find yourself being alone when you don’t want to be and most importantly, try being honest and humble while doing so. It is during this time where we can figure out what our ideals are. No better time exists. Though, you’ll need a group later on, being isolated is usually ideal for development at least in the initial stages. No distractions, just you and your skill.
This is a time where you can really toughen yourself up as an individual, especially mentally. You could really go through hell if you master the time spent with yourself. Don’t get me wrong, being a part of a group especially one with bonds resembling that of a brotherhood or a family is vital but in the current world, having a social life is overrated.
Take responsibility no matter what.
“Every one is really responsible to all men for all men and for everything.”
Hey there! Thanks for reading. This was a relatively short blog compared to my other three posts. I felt there isn’t much to talk about this considering it’s simply about choosing to take responsibility and embracing the chaos, if you feel the need to go further about how to develop as an individual, I would ask you to read my other two posts here which I’ve linked below.
If you’ve been following my posts from the past, thank you, it really means a lot. The current goal is to write one post per week, and hopefully, we’ll be regular. Thanks again.
Links: Hit the titles below (in bold letters) to reach their respective pages
The Pathway Towards Superhuman Grit – Reader’s favourite
The Ideal Person To Be – Marvel fans liked this one